Millicent Carvalho-Grevious and Brian Grevious.

Social worker Millicent Carvalho-Grevious does not believe that often repeated statement, “conflict is a good thing.”

“There is a lot of bad information that conflict is natural and conflict is good,” said Millicent, PhD, MSS, LSW. “Conflict is not good. Conflict is a negative experience.”

So Millicent, an experienced mediator and conflict resolution trainer who has even been invited to China to share her expertise, launched a Web radio program to spread the word about how to end conflict on personal, community and government levels.

The “Why Can’t We Get Along” show has been featured on WebTalkRadio.net since July and her husband Brian Grevious, a former detective and private investigator, has even joined the program as co-host.

“Oh gosh, yes!,” laughed Millicent when asked if working closely with her husband on a radio show can lead to some marital conflict.

She says Brian brings an analytical approach to the show, keeping it from having a totally “touchy-feely,” social work perspective. Having a husband-wife team as hosts also makes the show more entertaining, she said.

 “We have a lot of respect, appreciation and caring for each other. Basically, he is a conservative and I am more liberal,” Millicent said. “Social workers have to be open to bringing all people to the table.”

Brian and Millicent, who live near Philadelphia, record shows every other week and try to cover a wide range of conflict-related issues.

Their philosophy is to have no-holds-barred discussions without arguments. For instance, they have had programs on bullying in schools, how to get along with family during stressed filled holidays, and why it is not always a good thing to get your way.

The program has also featured influential guests, including Philadelphia District Attorney Seth Williams; Dr. Joyce Beckett, a clinical social worker, author, and Professor Emerita of Social Work at Virginia Commonwealth University; and Dr. Patricia Washington, Professor of Social Work Emerita at Florida Gulf Coast University.

One of Carvalho-Grevious’ favorite programs featured entertainer Jerry Samuels (writer of the 1960s novelty record hit “They’re Coming to Take Me Away Ha-Haaa!”) and his wife Bobbi. The couple was living in the same house but barely spoke to each other for 10 years. However they were able to settle their conflict and rekindle their love.

Carvalho-Grevious said the couple helped listeners appreciate that sometimes it’s good to hold out and work on a troubled relationship and sometimes it’s good to quit.

Another of her favorite programs was one on the “flash mobs” in Philadelphia. Flash mobs are large groups that form quickly and then disperse. Organizers often use cell phone texting, Facebook posts, or viral emails to gather crowds. Flash mobs usually do silly stunts but some crowds turned violent in Philadelphia.

Millicent decided to focus on phenomenon because it is a highly relevant issue not only in Philadelphia but globally.

Millicent and Brian have no plans to stop recording and eventually wants to take her radio program from the Web to terrestrial radio. “I think this is a show Oprah would be interested in,” she said.