Enough with the Whining
Some therapists are so sick of clients whining they are using tough love to get people to stop complaining and take action to solve their problems, according to this article in the Wall Street Journal.
One of the therapists the newspaper interviewed was National Association of Social Workers member Julie de Acevedo Hanks, MSW, LCSW, who runs a practice in Salt Lake City.
“A lot of whiners don’t know they whine,” Hanks said. “I want them to ask themselves, ‘Would I want to hang out with this person?’”
Hanks encourages clients not to dwell on issues they whine about a lot, such as their mother or their ex. She has even recorded some sessions on audio so clients can hear how much they whine.
Hanks says whining often masks a deeper emotion, such as fear. For instance, a person may whine about their boss because they fear their career has stalled.
“Whining is just a powerless complaint,” she said. “Understand this and you can get to the root of what is wrong.”
Hanks was nominated for a 2012 National Association of Social Workers Media Award for best website. To visit her website click here. And to learn more about how social workers help clients overcome mental and emotional hurdles visit NASW’s “Help Starts Here” Mind and Spirit website by clicking here.| Leave A Comment